How To Deal With Confrontation and Disagreements (amog)

confrontationWhat is discussion?
dis•cus•sion/disˈkəSHən/
Noun: a.- The action or process of talking about something, typically in order to reach a decision or to exchange ideas.
b.- A conversation or debate about a certain topic.

1. – When having a discussion: Research the person background, experience, personality etc… This will help you get a sense of who you are having a discussion with. Just by doing this simple step you avoid wasting a lot of your time.

2. – Do not take things personal: Discuss the content of the message or discussion, instead of getting PERSONAL, is not personal is the freaking internet.

3. – Be Humble: Maybe all along what you thought it was factual may have some flaws or be inaccurate. It is ok to be in the wrong, give credit and apologize if you are wrong. Even after a heated debate.

4. – Learn how to forgive, forget and flood: It is not worth to hate somebody even on the internet, when you hate you only are hurting yourself. You never know what the other person is going through or who the other person is.

5. – There is never a winner in a fight: If you win you lose, cause you make the other person look bad. If you lose you lose. I think is from the book “How To Win Friends And Influence People” that I saw a tale along this lines: “there was a dead man on the road, he was having an argument with another dude, he was right, 100% correct but now he is dead on the road”

6. – Be a Leader(from How to win friends and influence people): How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise every improvement.
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest.

7. – Ignore the troll: I will admit I have a problem ignoring trolls, since I like trolling trolls myself. But the right way to handle trollers is to IGNORE THEM, Chief has a post on the subject here:
how-to-handle-trolls-read-before-participating-in-the-forum-vt126545.html

8. – Give people the benefit of the doubt: Do not assume someone is a kj, or guru, or afc or mpua, or nerd or natural, or scam. Try not to label, or if you disagree on something and you will label, at least pm them first, to explain the position you do not agree with.

9. – Avoid group theory: Some dudes and it happens in all aspects of life. Form little groups so they get together and have a “group mentality and influence each other” part of being a leader, alpha, a mature individual, is to think for yourself and draw your own conclusions. Look what happened for example in Germany with Hitler, skin heads, Democrats, Republicans etc… They always fuck up or have fucked up for the inability of people in those particular institutions to think for themselves. BE AN INDEPENDENT!

10. – Sometimes you have to fight back: After you have tried everything else and is not working at some point, if you try to avoid a fight and the dude keeps amoging you then you have to fight back. When you figtht back try not to hit under the belt, be the grown up. But you do have to hit really hard(punch them in the nose), so they do not mess with you again…

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