Unlike most seduction guys, who say “do not have women as friends”, and are all paranoid about being “friend zone” I do have many female friends. Some of those female friends, are ex lovers, ex fuck buddies or just friends were nothing ever happened…
What I noticed with most women and in some cases some dudes as well. Is that they get hurt,confused, frustrated, depress, or just feel used.
The reason is that they do not know were they stand with a particular guy or girl when it comes to relationships.
So now you reading this! and thinking to yourself “shit! that is me I have been there”.
Good! and skills is here to help this is what you need to do ok, when you meet a guy/girl and you hang out with them, like them, and even FUCK THEM. You need to have a feel of were you stand, what are the dynamics etc…
For example if the guy hangs out with you and every time he goes to your house or you come to his house, he fucks you. But, almost never if ever goes out with you and is seen with you in public you are probably a fuck buddy. Here is the definition of a fuck buddy by Blackdragon:
FB – Fuck Buddy or Friend with Benefits. A person you’re having sex with at least semi-regularly who is just a friend. There are no romantic feelings or intentions. Spending time with an FB in non-sexual situations is minimal (otherwise, she becomes an MLTR). One can have multiple FBs.
Here is a friend of mine that is getting it wrong, in other words confusing her role of Fuck buddy with Mltr, Girlfriend or Main girl:
Whenever I told the young guy I missed him he wouldn’t say anything. He actually came down with his friend to help me move my dogs down and paint my house but wasn’t very close with me like I would have liked. It was all business and money to him:( and now that he is gone, he won’t talk to me at all. I fell in love with this guy 3 years ago and all he wanted was good times and I feel so hurt because I still care so much that it drives me crazy that he won’t respond to me. I guess it’s time to move on and try to get over it. I just keep wondering why and did I do something wrong but no response. Maybe what I did wrong for him was love him too much and move away. 10:11 AM
Here is how most players that do it right handle fuck buddies:
a.- They usually only hang out for sex.
b.- Most of the time is spent in a motel, her crib, your crib, or sneaky locations conductive to sex.
c.- You do not do much if any, dates or seen in public.
d.- You are never introduce to friends and family.
e.- All relationship talk, status on relationships, or hints of relationship, gets avoided, the subject is changed, gets very uncomfortable, or after those types of talks the dudes disappears temporarily or permanently.
Another relationship structure that is confused by dudes and specially women is a step above Fuck buddy or friends with benefits which is what i going to call a cool/special girl on the side that you have some type of feelings for, in the seduction community is called mltr, here is by Blackdragon:
MLTR – Multiple Long Term Relationships. The typical type of polyamorous relationship. A woman you’re dating nonmonogamously who you do actually care about at an emotional level. You are romantic with her and care for her far more than just a friend (you may even love her), but you date and care for other women as well. One can have multiple MLTRs.
My female best friend we are going to call her “Mrs. Robinson” (this girl I fucked about 10 years ago and got her to leave the husband, not proud for it, but I did not know till too late that she was married). But anyways, she spent 7 years waiting around for a dude to make her the main girl/queen/girlfriend/wife and thinking she was in first place, when the dude was married with the typical bs (which every dude that is married, lives with a girl or has a girlfriend, use the same tactic). “I am not happy, I am not in love with her, I am in the process to break up due to_____________________”. You would think that having me as a best friend and I know every possible tactic, game, intention, social dynamic etc… This girl would know better, but to my embarrassment, for more that I explained to her what was going on, she either did not listen, did not want to see the truth, or just was too invested and blindsided to understand what I spent 7 years in a million different ways trying to tell her.
Now, I will not cover girlfriends, wives or girls that you are in a serious relationship with, since it is common knowledge and is obvious. But I encourage you, to watch one of the best videos series I have ever seen in MY LIFE, about relationship structures is by a guru named Tuburao* (click on his name for the videos and his rules).
Now here is what I told Mrs. Robinson and what I have done successfully for many years that I believe can help many of you.
When I meet someone I am myself, if she does not like me too bad, there are a million other women out there… I do not over promise shit, or pretend shit is going somewhere, I am sweet, charming, loving but pretty much neutral in relationship status or very vague. But when I date I pretty much know right of the get go due to experience if the girl is:
a.-Fuck for fun ake fuck buddy.- A girl I just want to fuck and have fun with. For example a hot girl that is married, or do drugs, or _________ Fill in the blank disqualifier.
b.- A female friend.- No sex whatsoever, just a friend. Usually these are hot girls I work with, or do capoeira, gymnastic with, or have and/or have dated my friends etc….
c.- A future girlfriend.- A girl that I may see some day a remote possibility.
d.- A nobody.- A girl I have not interested with in ANYTHING at all. Usually nasty attitude, or I just can’t stand the bitch.
And I proceed to treat each category accordingly, I encourage you to do the same from the start, till proven other wise. Now, these categories are not exclusive but fluid, for example a girl can be a female friend that quit my job, or that stop capoeira or gymnastic. And now since is not part of my social circle, I can go ahead and date, get me?. Or she can be a mltr, and you decide later to make her your main girlfriend (this is mainly how I operate and most seducers).
Of course the most common thing, is women just like my best friend, being with a guy that has a main girl, girlfriend, wife and she is the girl on the side. These girls for some reason fall really really hard, in the hopes she will be the “replacement”.
Here is Tubaro* video series I really really really, did i say really, encourage you to WATCH ALL THE VIDEOS and READ HIS RULES.(Mandatory):http://joy-in-the-now.blogspot.com/
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