A lot of the times I go out to “have fun”, a lot of times I go on dates with the goal to “get to know”. However; I have fucked hundreds of women so my goal at this stage in my life is totally different than someone that is new to seduction or an intermediate young seducer. Most new and intermediate seducers totally find excuses and backward rationalize their lack of success mainly due to approach anxiety and/or they want to avoid rejection, THIS IS NOT WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT.
Skills dahhh! why are you writing this post? Well, sometimes I go through a burn out (when you fuck a lot of girls in a short amount of time and then get totally deflated by doing so)… Sometimes I have logistical problems (such as living in main), sometimes my bull pen of girls is full, sometimes the girls are not really my type or I have fucked a similar looking girl more than 50 times, sometimes I just don’t care, sometimes I just broke up and need to take a break and sometimes I want to have fun via dancing and don’t give a shit about getting laid…. So, for me to get laid and achieve the excitement, that an average Joe gets is super difficult, imagine a crack head getting a sip of bourbon probably he will not feel anything, get me?.
With that being said, couple of months back I fucked a blonde girl from South Africa, you can read the story here and I achieved excitement, why? cause she is not westernized, she was really submissive and feminine.
^ Now naturals are the same, 3 of my natural friends have told me, “if i want to go out and get laid, i get laid”, I find myself the same way. More on this, some coaches have reported that they do way better when they have to “prove” themselves in front of students. This is because you have the “burn the boat attitude”. Couple of months back for example, I got challenged to “put out or shut up” that was teevester cause I was calling verbal game mental masturbation (and I was 100% wrong calling second generation verbals mental masturbation). I was like “let me prove him wrong’ and went through a fucking spree (lol using the second generation verbals). Of course, I came out of it, a bit burned out, and proceeded to go out for fun vs get laid…(don’t get me wrong going out for fun can be as exiting as going out to get laid and even more sometimes, again out of 10 lays at this point 1 is worth it and exiting).Though, I kept going out and getting some of my wings and students laid, but i did not get laid.
Anyways, my point is the mindset of going out to get LAID, is more powerful than all the techniques and routines if your goal is to “get laid” vs all other reason to go out (and again i am not one to tell you going out for not getting laid is wrong, whatever your goals are at your stage in life).
Now when ever a girl that I like flakes (were I was planning to get laid but did not due to the flake, which is rare for me to get flaked on) and I get mad and go to the club “to get laid”, guess what? i get laid.
A while back, I had my personal 10, we were making out, but I was paranoid in my game (cause I fucked her friend that was right there), so I did not play to win, no killer instinct, no burn the boats, and plaid it safe and took her number = I probably will never get her now. Update.- From when I wrote the story she did give me a window of opportunity to get her, since I ran into her at a club, but unfortunately I had my bull pen full and did not capitalize on the opportunity, I do think me and her will eventually end up together at some point in the future).
Then, there is the living to your identity factor. Sometimes, we get invested into our “identity” “persona” were you are to cool for school and don’t want to face REJECTION.
The interaction is going so well, she is into you, that you do not want risk a rejection and you play not to lose = you will not get laid sorry, and women can sense all this shit!
So for you newer and intermediate guys, you need to develop a killer instinct, go for the fuck no matter what, if you actually like the girl, of course, and you want to get laid that night.With that being said, i go out sometimes to teach, sometimes to write, sometimes to practice a skill set and yes some times for fun= i do not get laid…
These are the 2 videos by Good Looking Loser that I recommend to watch periodically if your fundamentals and your effort and your game is good, but still you are not getting laid for whatever reason:
This is a video by Tyler rsd making the same exact point i am making (I wonder if he read my original post on the hidden forum, probably not, I just think advance guys just reach same conclusions):
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