Disclaimer.- This post is not meant to be as an excuse not to go out and try new things. I am just being objective based on my views and my experience in the UNITED STATES.
If you go clubbing regularly In the United States, you will notice that the clubs from November 1st – February 14th are full of dudes (aka sausage fest), and there are barely any girls, specially hot girls out. Of course there are exceptions to this, “New Years” and “Latin countries/Europe” (in Latin America clubs better) but i am just generalizing specially and talking about USA.
I really believe this has to do with what my friend Warped Mindless as seen in my book, calls boyfriend season:
*shivers*
Its that time of year where I, and many other people live…its Boyfriend season, also known as winter!
Winters get cold where I live (Northern United States) and every year right around this time (Fall, starting to get cold) I notice a trend, EVERYONE starts to hook up. My theory is because when it gets cold, people don’t feel like going out as often. They just wanna stay in, snuggle up with another warm body, sip of hot coco and watch the current hit romantic comedy. Nothing wrong with that and i’m even a bit of the same way.
October is fall around here and just starting to get cold. This is when most people start hooking up. By the end of November almost everyone that can get someone, and that’s wants someone, has someone.
This is why this time of year is the hardest time of the year to hook up. Women are still in that “honeymoon phase” here being with her guy is still new and exciting. She hasn’t yet had time to discover how much of a chode he is yet. Also, I like most people don’t really like the cold and it usually takes me a while for my body to get used to it enough where I wanna go back out multiple nights a week.
Every year I pretty much do the same thing. If what I have described above then the following is something you way wish to consider doing yourself.
I usually let any fuck buddies I have go and stay with my primary at the time until about February. Up until then I’ll still go out but not often, usually only twice a week compared to 5+ night a week during the summer. When February hits I’m usually pretty well adjusted to the cold and I start going out a little more. By now I may have a fuck buddy again if I feel like it. From here I get more and more active until summer hits.
So, what can you do if the whole winter scenario describes your suitation but you don’t have a GF or any fuck buddies?
The problems we have is that your not going to feel like going out as much, that the women who are single wont even feel like going out as much, and the women who aren’t single will be harder to get plus they also wont be going out as much.
So how will you meet women now?
The solution is to turn to your social circle. But forgetting about that for a second we also have online game. Dating sites and social networking sites such as Facebook and MyYearBook are now a great solution to finding women.
Have fun, bundle up, and enjoy the winter
So right now, put more emphasis on your goals, reading, working out, style, finances, lifestyle etc… Maybe even settle with one of the girls in your rotations, or a girl you are not that much into aka something better than nothing. But do not be to hard on yourself, if you are not getting the results you are expecting when you go out clubbing. Finally, if you still want to go out and hunt in clubs, keep in mind why you may not do as good as you expect.
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I definitely agree with this article. Went out on Friday, and there were a ton of girls with their boyfriends out. Made it way harder to approach girls in the club. However, still managed to pull one number and set up a date 2 days later for tomorrow, but the results are still to be determined.
Yea keep doing what you are doing, just keep in mind that the effort may have to be increase, cause there will be less women sexually available. So we need to compensate by effort aka increasing the number of interactions.