It seems that sometimes we backward rationalize, kj, causation = correlation and theorize based on our current situation and environment and this could be very dangerous not only for ourselves but as a community as a Whole…(Bunch of my personal life examples later)
This not only applies to pick up but to life in general, this post is a result of a long hard objective look at myself and after a recent situation were I went into panic/paranoia mode, due to a TEMPORARY decrease in my pick up ratios..(never in my dating life, had this happened to me).
Once I came out of my “panic” I started to look at things more objectively instead of “emotional conclusions” and influences. (Kudos to my player friends that call me out)
Hopefully when I get into one of this negative doom and gloom moods again, I can check out my own post. lol!
As a consequence of bad rationalizations you will seem to look at evidence and rationalize whatever your “ras” is at the time.
First, I am going to start with the concept of (RAS) Reticular Activating System as you may have heard before from sources such as rsd, but this really comes from psycho-cybernetic (a must have book about self image):
The Reticular Activating System (RAS) is the name given to part of the brain (the reticular formation and its connections) believed to be the centre of arousal and motivation in animals (including humans). It is situated at the core of the brain stem between the myelencephalon (medulla oblongata) and mesencephalon (midbrain).
The Reticular Activating System is the attention center in the brain. It is the key to “turning on your brain.” A cluster of cells in the brain act as a filter to the information we receive, these cells filter out the irrelevant information but retain that which is useful.
So how does this relate to seduction and meeting girls?
You can train your RAS to recognize more and more girls every day.
How? Simply ask yourself better questions.
“The questions you ask yourself will determine how the Reticular Activating System will respond to your search,” according to Mark A. Wigginton, an Austin, Texas-based personal development coach
For example, if you ask yourself, “Why can’t I seem to find a girl?” your brain will hand you a list of seemingly valid reasons why you aren’t moving forward.
“As you bring the reasons you can’t progress to the forefront of your mind, your RAS will automatically seek out reinforcement. ‘I can’t make progress because of conflicts with my schedule, my family responsibilities, I don’t know the right people, loud nightclubs, poor stupid girls etc.'”
But if you ask yourself, “What one thing can I do today to improve my chances of meeting girls?” or “How and where can I find beautiful girls that are easy to talk to?” your RAS will lead you toward the results you want. And you’ll get girls faster.
I am sure you have often heard how the sub-conscious thoughts we think can control what happens to us and that we need to “visualize” what we want in order to obtain “it.” Name it and claim it so to speak.
The RAS gives your brain the ability to sort through all the information around you, allowing you the capability to index data that is being thrown at you in order of importance or relevance. In other words, the RAS tells you what should pay attention to and what you should ignore.
Let me give you a simple example of an every day occurrence of RAS in your daily life. Today you decided you would love to own a new red Porsche sports car. On your way to an important business meeting, you begin to notice a lot of red Porsche sports cars on the road when you hadn’t before. Was there suddenly a huge increase of red Porsche sports cars driving on the road? Probably not.
Most likely the cars were there all along, it’s just your RAS fast at work. Your reticular activating system has now indexed the red Porsche sports car as an important factor in your life, causing you to recognize it at nearly every occurrence. Your RAS is constantly working in both your personal and your professional life, indexing the beliefs you have deemed in your personal value system as important and those that you deem as unobtainable.
Let me give you another example. All your life you have dreamed of becoming the most happening rock star on the planet, but you have constantly heard how impossible that task is and you subconsciously bought into that belief. Externally, or in your conscious mind you make your plans and work hard to achieve your desired goal.
Did you know that your conscious mind only controls 15% of what you actually do? The other 85% is handled by your subconscious mind. Look at those figures. 15% of your conscious thoughts and actions are now going to handle your path to success, while the other 85%, the part that believes you will fail, will control the rest of your path to success. If you are counting on your conscious mind to control your life, without reprogramming your subconscious mind, you are fighting a losing battle.
So how do you change the viscous cycle that seems to waylay your life and your aspirations of a successful music career or success in anything for that matter? You need to learn to utilize your RAS at will. If you learn to do so, you will tap into an incredible resource of authority and resourcefulness that will help you succeed where you have otherwise failed in the past.
In order to begin your training, you will have to do a few things to help yourself.
You must become 100%, absolutely sure, without a doubt, crystal clear about your wants, goals, needs and desires.
Next…it is vitally important that you write down your goals, plans, dreams and desires as well as what you will do to obtain them. I know you have heard this a million times, so I have. This time you must do it!
Go over the list and read it allowed to your self at least three to four times a day. Sounds stupid, but you MUST do it! Don’t get in the way of yourself! Somewhere in your subconscious mind is programmed a belief that says this is a stupid exercise and it won’t really work. So you say to your self you will either put it off until later or you believe that if you just read this statement, you’ll get it. You won’t. You have to follow it! Be proactive and do it!
This next part is also very important, although you may feel silly doing it. Tell your subconscious mind that this list is very important to you and command it to find a way for you to accomplish all the tasks you listed. Say it allowed at least two to three times a day (more if you want). Again, get out of the way of your self and your past belief system and let your brain and RAS do the job you want it to!
Once you do this, you will begin to find new ideas and beliefs that will come into your belief system. It is important to write these down as you will find a lot of real jewels among them. This is just a start in your path to success and changing your belief patterns about success.”
Now, I am going to use my self as a guinea pig since I am one of the first dudes that sometimes terribly backwards rationalizes sometimes based on whatever my “ras” is at the time, my other problem is that since i am such a good sales dude, I can destroy people when debating and win. (my bad, bad habit that I need to work on)
When I seduced a girl that was not into me about 10 years ago… I was a big more into the game/influence part than I am today vs my heavy emphasis on looks.. I was going on and on about game and manipulation on my posts.(Though i still favor screening vs game)
When I seduced a girl about a year ago that was “crazy” about the way I looked… I was going on and on about improving looks in my posts.
When i pulled a girl from a club and I was in her bedroom talking about a recent break up, and I literally could not fuck her, as she got pissed and pull out her “tinder”… I went on and on how women rather tinder for One night stands vs clubs, based on that incident, I made a post about it, and had a dude, literally give up on night game after my silly post.
When I recently started following the revolution lifestyle design and blackdragon blog that are online gamers saying how night game is getting bad… And since I had gone for the first time in my life mono to focus on biz/lifestyle and I was rusty in my game, plus the area were I gamed at, had made tons of changes, plus I was gaming with wings for the first time in my life, and my current mating strategy did not have as a goal of One Night Stands (which unfortunately it has to be implemented if you want to do good in night game, due to all the social media distractions and women state change)..I translated that to “night game is over”.
Since my ratios went down I went to my player friends looking to give me a reflection of the answers I was looking for…
Once I was in a sales biz were I used to be the top dude, and when my sales dropped similar situation happened, I was having a bad month and I went to sales dudes that were also having a bad month to talk about how clients are not buying anymore, when the fact is that I was closing the deals instead of prospecting, which cause my next month to be way lower than my previous month, get me?… So I went to the other dudes that were not hitting that month’s goal to talk about how bad the biz was.
Anyways, back to seduction…As I finally took action, went to other territories, did some street game and went to “online” and tested it, then took a realistic look at it and tried it, (after reading couple of online gaming books), I noticed that they really do not have any real advantage and the grass ain’t greener on the other side plus indeed the quality of women online is wayyyyyyyyyy lower. (Of course financially and time wise I can see were they may make an argument).
The real facts were:
1.- Obviously I do not have the same goals as I once had at my current stage in life. (I do not really care much for One Night Stands anymore at this stage in my life which again to be a successful night gamer you have to go for One Night Stands, years ago you can get away with a solid interaction and follow up with texting, no so much anymore, the ADD is on steroids)
2.- I am too entitled (counting in my past successes instead of doing the work required)
3.- I have wings (I am not used to pick up with wings I have always gamed solo).. . This was brought up to me by one of my real life players friends that told me “cut the wings”
4.- My demographic have changed a lot and I am not longer that attracted to women 18-24.(eventually this may happen to you as you get older, unless you skip the stage of banging 18-24 women)
5.- I was rusty and I had not gamed in 8 months for the first time in my life.
6.- I do not have the time I used to have since i am running 3 businesses.
7.- I am going for hotter girls than what I used to get, I only go for (8-10s).
8.- It seems as i gotten older, i am screening harder and getting pickier.
9.- My testosterone is lower now and I am going into self preservation mode.
10.- My current area is not longer the “hot spot” it used to be.
Once I realized all this and my” ras” changed back to normal, guess what? I had the exact same results I used to have in night game when I gamed in another area…
tldr it is all a mind fuck, and we are the ones that do the “mind fucking” on ourselves.
Now it does not mean some things have not changed (a lot indeed has changed in night game), but is not for example “the end of night game” as we know it, there will be always be changes, just like there are changes online (boy oh boy, a bunch of swiping, likes, doubletakes, pay for this, pay for that)…
Now there are guys that say i am a 6 i can only get a 6.
Or guys that think i can not keep a girl after ons this is how it is.
Or guys that think ________________________ Fill in the blank rationalizations.
Anyways… Just be careful with the mind fuck…Hope this ras stuff helps to put things into perspective.
Here is also a good video that touch on the subject, Out!:
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